Nicole blindsided Robert when she said she was leaving. "You have got to be kidding me!", was the only thing he could say.
"You heard me," she said. "I'm done. There is nothing left of this marriage." She flounced out of the room and locked herself in their library. He sank into a chair outside in the hall and waited, trying to absorb what she had said. Leaving? Why? He loved this woman. He would never leave HER. Why would she leave him? A businessman, his Blackberry chimed repeatedly, telling him that he had appointments, but in his dismay, he barely heard the sound, and when his secretary called, trying to find him, he didn't bother to answer her call.
All he could do was wait, as his mind whirled. It took her an entire hour to emerge. "Why?" he asked, his voice weak and small. What she told him blew him away. He continued to sit there stunned, as she walked out and drove away.
V:3 That night he called me. We spent a lot time on the phone and then in person sitting in a caf and discussing his wife. As we went over what his wife had told him, things began to fall in place. There had been signs that he had missed all along the way.
The recipe to save his marriage was not difficult to put together, and he attacked it with the same fervor that made him a star in business. He was persistent and over time his wife responded, actually much sooner than he ever thought possible. His marriage was turned around completely.
Usually before a marriage reaches a state of "limbo" or falls apart, SIGN LANGUAGE is all over the place, even if the verbal is not. Husbands and wives seem to figure if they just pretend that everything is okay, even when it isn't, the problems will somehow go away. They don't. Like a volcano, they simmer, rumble around and build until they blow up.
If you want to save your marriage, let's take a look at a few signs that spell T-R-O-U-B-L-E ahead in marriage: These are excerpts from Expert Love - our book on marriage.
STOP : Communication is stilted or nil. CAUTION: One partner has started to turn off. SLOW DOWN: Husband and wife spend very little time together. DETOUR: It is easy to get off track focusing on what you can get instead of give. OPEN DITCH: Romance is not a daily part of their lives. It's been reduced to sex. RED LIGHT FLASHING : They quarrel too easily and too often. DON'T PASS: They haven't a spiritual base. BUMPY ROAD: One of their children is becoming rebellious. MUDDY ROAD AHEAD : They take each other for granted. DANGER They don't laugh together much anymore. CURVES : Patience with each other has worn thin. There is a lot of criticism. LOOSE GRAVEL Finances and other life issues make things worse. WRONG WAY: One responds rudely when the other asks something. TUNNEL: One or the other feels sorry for herself/himself.
We can help you no matter which category you are in. We give you the guidance you need to recognize the danger signs. We show you what you can do, so that you can attack them in the right way and make your marriage work beautifully like never before.
It's never too early to get started on saving a marriage that might be deteriorating without your even knowing it. From our experience it is very rarely too late. Spend some time looking through our website. Go to: www.loverelationshipheadquarters.com. Join hands with us in making your marriage what it should be.
Dr Vance Hardisty International Speaker and Author Margaret Hardisty International Best Selling Author and Speaker Love Relationship Headquarters www.loverelationshipheadquarters.com
"You heard me," she said. "I'm done. There is nothing left of this marriage." She flounced out of the room and locked herself in their library. He sank into a chair outside in the hall and waited, trying to absorb what she had said. Leaving? Why? He loved this woman. He would never leave HER. Why would she leave him? A businessman, his Blackberry chimed repeatedly, telling him that he had appointments, but in his dismay, he barely heard the sound, and when his secretary called, trying to find him, he didn't bother to answer her call.
All he could do was wait, as his mind whirled. It took her an entire hour to emerge. "Why?" he asked, his voice weak and small. What she told him blew him away. He continued to sit there stunned, as she walked out and drove away.
V:3 That night he called me. We spent a lot time on the phone and then in person sitting in a caf and discussing his wife. As we went over what his wife had told him, things began to fall in place. There had been signs that he had missed all along the way.
The recipe to save his marriage was not difficult to put together, and he attacked it with the same fervor that made him a star in business. He was persistent and over time his wife responded, actually much sooner than he ever thought possible. His marriage was turned around completely.
Usually before a marriage reaches a state of "limbo" or falls apart, SIGN LANGUAGE is all over the place, even if the verbal is not. Husbands and wives seem to figure if they just pretend that everything is okay, even when it isn't, the problems will somehow go away. They don't. Like a volcano, they simmer, rumble around and build until they blow up.
If you want to save your marriage, let's take a look at a few signs that spell T-R-O-U-B-L-E ahead in marriage: These are excerpts from Expert Love - our book on marriage.
STOP : Communication is stilted or nil. CAUTION: One partner has started to turn off. SLOW DOWN: Husband and wife spend very little time together. DETOUR: It is easy to get off track focusing on what you can get instead of give. OPEN DITCH: Romance is not a daily part of their lives. It's been reduced to sex. RED LIGHT FLASHING : They quarrel too easily and too often. DON'T PASS: They haven't a spiritual base. BUMPY ROAD: One of their children is becoming rebellious. MUDDY ROAD AHEAD : They take each other for granted. DANGER They don't laugh together much anymore. CURVES : Patience with each other has worn thin. There is a lot of criticism. LOOSE GRAVEL Finances and other life issues make things worse. WRONG WAY: One responds rudely when the other asks something. TUNNEL: One or the other feels sorry for herself/himself.
We can help you no matter which category you are in. We give you the guidance you need to recognize the danger signs. We show you what you can do, so that you can attack them in the right way and make your marriage work beautifully like never before.
It's never too early to get started on saving a marriage that might be deteriorating without your even knowing it. From our experience it is very rarely too late. Spend some time looking through our website. Go to: www.loverelationshipheadquarters.com. Join hands with us in making your marriage what it should be.
Dr Vance Hardisty International Speaker and Author Margaret Hardisty International Best Selling Author and Speaker Love Relationship Headquarters www.loverelationshipheadquarters.com
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