Are you afraid of being alone? Many people are. The thought that, at some point in time most of us will spend a period of time alone, is something that scares many people a great deal.
There are many reasons why someone will spend time alone. Perhaps a spouse dies. Perhaps a child moves away, goes to college. A relationship breaks up, and one has no partner. These are all hard to live through, but we can come through all of these experiences as stronger people. The path to getting through them is to be satisfied alone. If you are ok being alone, you won't fear it any longer.
This is hard to accept for many people. We need to be able to enjoy our activities for the activity itself. Too often we depend on other people for our enjoyment. We feel like if we can't do something with another person, share the experience, we are disappointed. It is like the telling of a story.
Suppose there is no one there to tell the story to. We often think that this makes the story meaningless and hollow. If we think this way it is destructive. We should be able to enjoy our experiences independently as well.
Sharing experiences and stories is enjoyable and important of course. But, that is not the important thing. The important thing is to enjoy what you are doing. You should be able to fully experience and enjoy your activities, all by yourself.
When you are able to enjoy things on your own, no one can take this away from you. You will always be able to remember this good time also. This is the key to true independence. You'll find that you are happier and stronger as a result, regardless of your circumstances.
Don't fall into the thinking that being independent is sad or depressing. Just because you can enjoy activities by yourself does not mean that you must always be alone!
In fact, you will have a better time sharing experiences with others if you can learn to enjoy experiences on your own first.
There are many reasons why someone will spend time alone. Perhaps a spouse dies. Perhaps a child moves away, goes to college. A relationship breaks up, and one has no partner. These are all hard to live through, but we can come through all of these experiences as stronger people. The path to getting through them is to be satisfied alone. If you are ok being alone, you won't fear it any longer.
This is hard to accept for many people. We need to be able to enjoy our activities for the activity itself. Too often we depend on other people for our enjoyment. We feel like if we can't do something with another person, share the experience, we are disappointed. It is like the telling of a story.
Suppose there is no one there to tell the story to. We often think that this makes the story meaningless and hollow. If we think this way it is destructive. We should be able to enjoy our experiences independently as well.
Sharing experiences and stories is enjoyable and important of course. But, that is not the important thing. The important thing is to enjoy what you are doing. You should be able to fully experience and enjoy your activities, all by yourself.
When you are able to enjoy things on your own, no one can take this away from you. You will always be able to remember this good time also. This is the key to true independence. You'll find that you are happier and stronger as a result, regardless of your circumstances.
Don't fall into the thinking that being independent is sad or depressing. Just because you can enjoy activities by yourself does not mean that you must always be alone!
In fact, you will have a better time sharing experiences with others if you can learn to enjoy experiences on your own first.
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